It is said, and few there are who dispute it, that next to the preservation of life itself, sexual desire is man's strongest innate incentive. This fact accepted, it is easy to see why so much of the concern of human moralist is directed to this portion of man's makeup.

In many ways sexuality is like the weather in Mark Twain's famous aphorism, everybody talks about it, but nobody does anything about it. Our new "sex experts" are as ignorant of the basic nature of this human incentive as were our Victorian and Elizabethan ancestors. Because of the ignorance on the part of even those who attempt to guide us in this important matter, we constantly vacillate from one extreme to the other.

As the freedom of the Elizabethan period eventually gave way to the inhibition of the Victorian, so is the Sexual Revolution of the 1960s giving way to the esthetics of the 1980s and 1990s. Why? For several reasons. First, casual sex is one of the most prolific causes and disseminators of infectious disease known to man. In Elizabethan days it was syphilis and gonorrhea: today it is these same old favorites, plus herpes and AIDS. Advocates of sexual freedom have always attempted to place the blame for these diseases that rot the fiber of our young and not so young elsewhere, but the plain facts destroy their contentions.

Second, sex without love erodes the human Soul. In time it makes emotional derelicts of all who follow this course. As this begins to occur, the pendulum swings back the other way in man's general outlook at sex. We are now in a time when this is beginning to happen.

Almost every normal woman eventually reaches the time in her life when she thinks about being a mother. In a period of licentious sexuality this can become a real problem. She often finds that those who may be satisfactory as causal sex partners are rarely worthy of being the father of her child. What is she to do? This is a difficult question to answer. As a friend wrote me recently, "Sex is easy. Love is hard." And so it is. As time goes on these women leave their old ways in search of something better. Those who do not will probably not reproduce and so their kind is not carried on into the new generation.

Third, although we are in a world in which much can be explained by science and our most trusted teachers assure us there is no God - nothing beyond that which we can ascertain with our five senses, deep down we do not believe them. There is a sense within us that tells us otherwise. In fact, inwardly we are sorry for our "college brains" who have concentrated so much time and energy on their mental apparatus that they apparently have been able to quiet this "still small voice" within from which all true knowledge stems.

This monitor within tells all who give even half a listen that there is much more to love and sex than is dreamed of by the so-called experts, new or old. Therefore, many humans, particularly women because by nature they are generally more sensitive, are unsatisfied with the status quo and are looking for a better answer. Unfortunately for all humanity, the only answer that is usually found is to seek the opposite of what is known as the norm. For this reason, over the years our public attitudes toward sex have consistently vacillated between licentiousness and repressive denial and abstinence.

BASICS OF THE ONE FLESH CONCEPT

Earlier in this book three legitimate purposes of the sexual incentive were discussed. Because an understanding of this information is necessary for the instructions in this section, it might be well to review that now if you did not understand fully. In the previous section we gave the theory of proper sexual habits. We will now present the "meat and bones" of this important subject.

I will not say that one cannot become a part of the New Renaissance without knowledge of the skill in the One Flesh concept; however, I can say without fear of contradiction that I know of no better way to assure such a place as by the practice of this concept. The close relationship between a husband and wife that is the backbone of the One Flesh concept is the "Open Sesame" to all those things in life near and dear to God and His legitimate offsprings.

It is difficult to imagine how many problems that plague human society today have their origin in the inability of man and woman to understand the motives and incentives of the other. The most feared infectious disease of the day, AIDS, may also stem indirectly from this ubiquitous misunderstanding. Because men and women have such different desires, and such a great gulf exists between them, many find it easier to relate to members of the same sex. In this way homosexuality is encouraged. It is, of course, this same homosexuality that has fostered the AIDS epidemic. It is, therefore, easy to see why I believe we can, with good reason, lay the AIDS disaster at the feet of the lack of understanding between men and women.

It is the nature of this confusion that we now address in our analysis of the One Flesh concept.

The One Flesh title comes from the words of the Nazarene when he stated, referring to the married couple, "the twain shall become one flesh." Although most theological authorities have given these words of the Nazarene a poetic meaning, He was not usually given to such terminology and, therefore, we are not entirely amiss to consider that He meant exactly what he said.

That is indeed a challenging thought. Is it really possible that two people could through marriage be altered to become the same or one flesh? Interestingly, the Hawaiians have a belief that man and woman were at one time one being that was separated by God and have ever since been trying to put themselves back together (one flesh?). Actually, this concept is not too unlike the story of Adam and his rib.

Theology aside, a surprising amount of evidence in the scientific world tends to support this hypothesis. The work, Sexual Hygiene and Pathology, by John F. Oliven, M.D., (J.B. Lippincott & Co., Philadelphia, 1965) describes in great detail the various substances, including hormones, that are present in seminal fluid. There are found not only many nutritional substances, but even estrogen, so that the woman's femininity can be further encouraged through the marriage rite.

A study of the male anatomy shows a surprising number of glands that take part in the production of seminal fluid: the glands of Cowper, the glands of Littre, the coronal glands, the prostate, and the seminal vesicals. As the body usually has no part that is not absolutely necessary to its needs - in fact, wherever possible every attempt is made to make a single organ accomplish many tasks - it is suspicious to find so many glandular secretions for such a seemingly simple task of conveying sperm into the female vagina. It is certainly some kind of overkill. As such overkill is not a common part of the plan for the human body, our concept of a most important previously unaccepted role for these secretions begins to appear more feasible.

When the fact, as demonstrated by Dr. Oliven, that the semen of each man is "as individual as his fingerprints," is added to our present knowledge, the One Flesh concept, which at first appeared vague and unsubstantiated, begins to show some promise. It is our contention that the substances of the male semen and the female vaginal secretions have the power in time to actually change the genetic structure of the individuals in a One Flesh marriage, so that they do, in fact, become more and more one flesh. That is to say, they tend eventually to look and to think alike to the point that they become the two separate facets of the same being.

We fully understand that this is a seemingly revolutionary concept, but yet the factual, as well as the historical, evidence strongly favors this assumption.

Once it is possible for an individual to conceive of this idea, many new and interesting possibilities open up.

A CONTINUING BOND. QUESTION: What if we are promiscuous? What happens then? What effect has male semen on these women?

ANSWER: There is little doubt that promiscuous women are affected by seminal exchange and to some degree they have become a part of their male partner and he becomes a part of them. This relationship is therefore never ended as we might wish. Promiscuous men carry around some of their women partners with them always. There is some doubt that even death itself is able to break this bond fully.

QUESTION: When this is considered, we are in a precarious position in our sexual relations. Why did God make things so sensitive?

ANSWER: The word you chose is the right one, sensitive. The plan was for man and woman to be sufficiently sensitive toward each other that they would be bound by their love from the first moment they became a One Flesh couple. They were so designed to respond to the slightest feeling and contact with the other. Each of these contacts should act as a further bond and melting agent to allow them to blend into the one being. It was not the fault of God or Nature, His handmaiden, that He did not restrict His contacts to one but diffused His forces and powers in many female objects. The Law cannot change just because man does not understand the rules or, if he does, refuses to abide by them.

QUESTION: What if a man used a barrier contraceptive (condom) for his promiscuous activities? Would not that prevent the attachment that you describe?

ANSWER: Surprisingly, it would not. We have described the permanent relationship established by the exchange of seminal and vaginal fluids, but this is not the major force involved - only the easiest to explain. Each of us has a specific wave or vibration pattern that is an integral part of being. These vibrations mix and coalesce in a most entangling manner with those with whom we are intimate. It is these vibrations that hold us to other individuals and that make them a part of our being whether we wish it or not.

QUESTION: What about divorce or widowhood? Dose the same Law apply?

ANSWER: The Law cannot fail to apply. It is and must work accordingly. One must remember that it is not always a bad thing to have such vibrations and physical changes a part of our being. If a marriage decays after a time and divorce seems the only way out, it may be by far the lesser of the two evils. The One Flesh principle can be a two-edged sword. If the love that should exist between two married persons has become more closely related to hate or disgust, this is what is exchanged during the marriage rite and the two do indeed still tend to become one person. Only not a very nice person.

If these persons are divorced, the changes wrought in both do not go away. The tie between the man and the woman is always present, although it can be greatly reduced by a wise course of Spiritual development and/or a true, loving One Flash marriage. In this case it is up to both parties in the new marriage to so live as to negate as much as possible the adverse One Flesh "programming" of the first.

When a partner dies, one is left with two possibilities, and both have the power to be in full harmony with the One Flesh concept. When the wife of a well-known Initiate died, he was asked if he would marry again. His answer was simple and to the point. "She is but gone on a journey ahead of me to help prepare our next home. Now wouldn't I be some sort of cad to seek another at this time? He was, at the time of his wife's transition, a fairly old man, surrounded by his family, so he had no reason for loneliness and this must be taken into account. Under other circumstances, if the widow or widower were younger or if the bond between the original two not so strong, a second marriage might be more understandable. There would, of course, be an interrelationship between the One Flesh effect of both the first and the second mates, and no one can tell in advance which would dominate. I have known, as I am sure everyone has, second marriages under these situations that have worked out extremely well and others that were total failures. As with everything in marriage, success or failure depends on the ability of the spouses to make the most constructive use of the One Flesh principle.

QUESTION: Considering what you say about vibrations affecting the other partner, would this mean that a One Flesh relationship could exist to a degree between two homosexual lovers?

ANSWER: This is not an easy question to answer. Not that the answer is difficult, but that it is not easy to describe the subtle emotional distinctions involved. The One Flesh marriage depends on two main factors: the physical sexual and emotional differences between the male and the female and the vibratory harmony that these two are able to establish in their marriage. No matter how much they try, the homosexual couple can never bridge the gap created by this first requirement. It is possible for two men or for two women to create a very close relationship that is the equal in some ways to many good marriages, but this is only, as implied, half the battle. The other half is beyond the ability of man to change even with his hormones and sex change operations. The true quality of being able to act as one pole of the One Flesh battery must come from God and Nature and cannot be successfully imitated at a later time.

THE ONE FLESH BATTERY. QUESTION. What do you mean by the "One Flesh battery"?

ANSWER: All activity in the universe, and that includes what we call inanimate structures as well as living beings, exist because of the principle of positive and negative. For existence, as we know it, we must have two equal, but opposite, forces in action. There can be no example in nature where this does not occur, although at times it may be difficult to comprehend these forces at work. By the equal but opposite action of these forces stability and equilibrium are achieved - somewhat in the manner that two matched teams in a tug-of-war keep the rope stable and immovable.

With the man as the positive pole of the One Flesh battery and woman as the negative pole, we have the beginning of potential electric power. We say "beginning " because no battery is functional with two poles alone: there must also be a proper amount and consistency of electrolyte. In this instance the electrolyte is the LOVE that must be present if the One Flesh batter is to function. Once all these elements are in place, electricity can begin to flow and no one can say how great will be the power of this particular battery, because this is strictly up to the parties involved. We can say, however, that no more potent force is known on Earth than a Spiritually awakened One Flesh battery.

QUESTION: What made you first consider the One Flesh concept?

ANSWER: When I was an eager young man, I looked for a mate who would have the same feelings I did. Whenever I met someone who did, I soon found the biological chemistry was missing and that it was usually present only with girls who did not necessarily think as I did.

Later when I was a practicing marriage counselor, I discovered another disturbing fact. Often when I interviewed the husband and the wife separately, the difficulties each related had absolutely nothing to do with the other. If I had not know they were husband and wife, I would have sworn they had never met.

As I mulled over these and other less important, but related, factors, I concluded that the emotional mechanism and needs of men and women differ. Subsequent observation and investigation over the past twenty-five years have consistently reinforced this concept.

QUESTION: Suppose there are basic differences in emotional responses between men and women. What is the purpose of these?

ANSWER: A good question. God and Nature do nothing without a good reason. These incentives, as I like to call them, have very important reasons for existing and for being distinctive in each of the sexes. Their primary purpose seems to be to act to preserve the species with little thought for the esthetics of the couple involved. As the world's population has continued to grow at a healthy rate despite all of mankind's efforts to limit his progeny and to destroy his fellowman, we must give nature and God credit for the effectiveness of these incentives.

Although the primary incentives come to light first, as the research proceeded it became obvious that the married couple had not been left bereft of "humanizing" incentives. Secondary incentives have as their purpose the developing of sympathetic emotional feelings between the partners, and, in this way, are among the major factors in producing the One Flesh marriage.

QUESTION: I'm not quite sure I understand what you are talking about. What is the nature of these individual incentives? Maybe, with that information I can better understand.

ANSWER: To our knowledge there are six incentives, three for men and three for the woman. First is the Primary Sexual Incentive (PSI); it applies to both man and woman. The PSI has basically one ulterior reason for existing and that is to assure that the race and species will not perish. Secondly, for the man there is the Masculine Creative Desire (MCD); for the woman, the Female Creative Desire (FCD) Third is the Secondary Sexual Incentive (SSI)and applies equally to man and woman.

SEXUAL INCENTIVES

PRIMARY SEXUAL INCENTIVE: MALE. Probably the most easily understood of the incentives is the male Primary Sexual Incentive (PSI). This is a strong desire to cohabit with the female of the species. There is nothing particularly exalted about this desire, except that it is very powerful and without it the human race undoubtedly would have died out centuries age. Inasmuch as the average unregenerated man has little in common with the female of his species, where it not for this overwhelming urge they would have few reasons to congregate together. In general, the things that most women do drive many men to distraction. Undoubtedly, this is the reason for so much abuse of women and children today. In the beginning, it is the desire to have a socially acceptable outlet for this primary sexual drive that brings most men to marriage. And it is a complete misunderstanding of this fact that makes marriage so miserable for so many young wives.

PRIMARY SEXUAL INCENTIVE: FEMALE. the Primary Sexual Incentive of the budding woman is entirely different from that of the man. Nature does not need on her part a desire for sexual intercourse per se, only an acquiescence to the act. What nature does require of the woman is this acquiescence and then the mothering instinct to put up with the trouble of bearing and ultimately caring for the inevitable result of the relationship. Toward this end the Primary Sexual Incentive of woman is a desire for love and affection, plus the need to reciprocate this both to her mate and to the progeny that should be the outcome of their relationship. Even the most voracious devotees of the Woman's Liberation Movement cannot change the effects of these innate incentive.

Although the primary incentives are nearly identical with those of many animal forms (not all, for there are many examples of strange sexual combinations in Nature), other incentives seem to be unique with the human being. This is not something that should move us to smugness, for some animals have inherent incentives that we would do well to emulate. The first that we should discuss is the Masculine Creative Desire (MCD). This incentive has been hotly debated ever since it was first introduced in the early 1960s.

MASCULINE CREATIVE DESIRE. The MCD is the incentive in the male that drives him to do things because they can or should be done. It is basically independent of rationality. This is one of the most compelling reasons we do not find its counterpart in the female. She is (must be, because of her need to protect her children) basically too rational and too practical a being to engage in the ridiculous nonsense that is almost always a part of the MCD. The MCD that is the motive force behind such creativity as music composition, race car driving, painting and sculpting, mountain climbing, soldiering, and being a missionary in a God-forgotten land. It is, by itself, unrelated to ethics or morality. The same MCD that motivated Adolf Hitler moved Abraham Lincoln to his great deeds for humanity. Perhaps the best way to explain MCD is to say that God gave woman the right and ability to create the most profound object this Earth can know, a being with a human Soul who has the potential of becoming a co-creator with God Himself. To man nothing of equal value could be given, so in an attempt to create an equal balance, he was given the rest of the world to use as his field of creation.

Because of this most wonderful incentive, MCD, men have come out of caves and tree tops to create the advanced civilization we know today. Unfortunately, MCD leads to serious problems in the world and in the relationships between men and women. The difficulty lies in the fact that MCD is by nature amoral and cold. It has neither heart nor compassion. This does not mean that men cannot exhibit these qualities, but only that these attributes are not a part of this incentive. If the qualities of warmth and understanding are to become a part of any masculine creation, they must be injected from an outside source.

The MCD, perhaps even more than the PSI differences between men and women, has tended to create a perpetual rift and animosity between men and women. There are two major reasons for this: First, because of man's subconscious feeling of inferiority that he is not able to create and nurture a human life, he has from time immemorial attempted to diminish in public thought the value of this tremendous accomplishment by women. He has indeed attempted and in general succeeded in convincing even most women that their God-given creative ability is far below his. In fact, his success in this endeavor has been so phenomenal that the great majority of women themselves do not doubt its authenticity.

The so-called Woman's Liberation Movement is based on the same erroneous conclusions that the world created by men is somehow superior to that of women. Ironically, Men's constant efforts over the centuries to destroy women's appreciation of their quintessential feminine creative qualities and to substitute their own lesser masculine ones have produced in women a longing for these artificial values. Women are now rising up and demanding an equal opportunity to the false gods men have erected, and it is troubling men no end. It would seem that this result of their actions, though long in coming, is certainly deserved.

What does concern all thinking individuals on this matter, however, is what it is doing to women. Even at the peak of their subjugation, they were faithful to their incentives and, therefore, were in harmony with the Laws of God. Now it appears they (those carried away by these movements) are to bring themselves to a most unfortunate state that lowers them not only below the exalted status of a woman, but even below that of the crude creature called man. Once a woman puts aside the incentives that are her natural inheritance, she has no way to go but down. The desire on a woman's part for liberation can change her mental attitude, but it cannot change her incentives. She cannot possess a true MCD (not that any REAL woman would want one) and, therefore, once she has given up her own incentives, the best she can expect is an artificially manufactured copy of an MCD. The observer who is familiar with the principles of these human incentives recognizes when a woman is attempting to function on this level, and even the most hard-hearted among us cannot but feel compassion for these pitiful creatures.

The second reason that MCD creates a breach between men and women is that it is a world to which wives and sweethearts are not welcome. Therefore, it creates a great gulf between men and women, and there is no way a true woman can really bridge that gulf. Surprisingly, the more a woman tries, the greater the gulf usually becomes. For example, to a man the world of MCD is the antithesis of the sexal world. The same center of energy that creates in the sexual is the one that fires the world of MCD. Thus, the more of one, the less of the other. To a man, the things he considers womanly are in the sexual realm. The more she attempts to come into his realm of MCD, the farther she departs from the realm of the sexual - the position in which a man places a woman. A man may accept a female into his world of MCD, but once she is there, she becomes another man and is usually treated as such, much to her chagrin. NO man wants a wife or sweetheart to be a competitor in his MCD. For a woman to do so is to sign the death warrant to the true relationship she desires. What the man does want is a subservient dedicated helper and number one admirer of his MCD efforts. Once this desire is understood and complied with, the marriage is assured success, all else being equal. To the woman who learns to master the eccentricities of MCD, men are no longer a mystery. Their actions are now logical and predictable even if they are not particularly admired.

FEMALE CREATIVE DESIRE. God is NO respecter of persons, neither is He a respecter of sexes. His gifts are distributed equally between the two genders, only, as they are meant for separate functions, the nature of the incentives varies for obvious reasons. The Female Creative Desire (FCD) is designed by Nature to awaken in a woman the desire to have a family and to nurture that family. The strength of this incentive in a woman can no more be understood by the average man than a woman can comprehend his MCD. Incentives, remember, were never meant, by Nature, to be understood, only obeyed. The character of the human race is too erratic and arbitary; without the FCD the continuance of the human race would be short-lived. To prevent the early demise of this irascible bunch, incentives similar to those already in place in most of the dumb animals were instituted.

The FCD may awaken early in the reproductive life of a woman, or it may awaken late. There seems to be no understood pattern. In many women, the desire begins almost as soon as they are capable of conceiving, while in others it may come to life only as they approach menopause.

The various manifestations of this incentive tend to occur as the need arises. At first all that is needed is the undeniable desire to be a mother. Once conception is achieved, the more subtle mothering instincts can emerge. When a child is born, the normal woman receives the full impact of this incentive and her nurturing and protective compulsions reach their zenith. As this child begins to mature, a point may be reached when Nature may say, by her incentives, "It's time to have another," and the cycle will be repeated.

Since time immemorial, male scientists have attempted to create life in the laboratory. Most of these scientists were - and are - by their own admission, atheists. They are not ready to accept a God that would give to the "lowly" woman an ability that is denied to them. Therefore, they continue the labor in the vain attempt to show this God, in whom they do not believe, that they are as good as He. "Oh, what fools these mortals be!"

One of the main secrets of happiness and peace in the New Renaissance will be the eager acquiescence of each sex to the Divine Plan concerning the purpose of the separate genders. They will be wise enough to know that they chose their gender for this incarnation and that should they wish to be of a different sex in the next incarnation it is their privilege. To attempt to make this change during an earthly incarnation is to place the Soul itself in jeopardy and must be considered most cautiously. Spiritual advancement for persons born a male is to be enhanced by becoming more masculine, not in the vulgar or macho sense, but by learning to develop all their incentives to their most godly ends. Likewise, for those of the feminine gender. Their greatest development comes NOT by attempting to emulate the male, but by using their inborn incentives to their most godly purposes.

FEMALE SECONDARY SEXUAL INCENTIVE. The incentives described above are inherent in almost all normal humans. The two now to be described are unique in that they are only potential incentives, although to some degree almost all humans develop a lesser or a greater degree of these qualities. Few women will disagree with the concept that their primary Sexual Incentive is a desire for love and affection. Most of them also know that as they become more sexually active a true desire and need for the marital rite becomes a compelling need. This growing need is explained by the stimulation of their Secondary Sexual Incentive (SSI).

Nature has no need for a strong sexual drive in the normal young girl. In fact, such a desire world probably be detrimental in that it might lead her to cohabit with those who would be considered undesirable to the advancement of the race. Her inherent need at this time is to meet someone who will fulfill her needs for love and affection. To this man, she is willing to give herself to please him, as a show of her personal love and sacrifice, and not because she desires the pleasures of sex, per se. All this is according to the needs of Nature for a better race of men.

Once they are married, the circumstances change. She begins to develop her SSI, which is nothing more or less than a modified male PSI. Due to the stimulation of her sexual centers and of the emotional changes that are an integral part of married life, she begins to develop a desire for the sexual act itself and for all the contentment that it brings to her. There are several reasons for this, but the three most common are Nature's reward for a job well done, the frequent need by her body for the substances in the male semen, and as a counteracting impetus to her husband's involvement in his MCD as he attempts to provide for his family.

Both Nature and God are always ready to reward those who obey the Law. Whenever a Normal woman commits herself to the marriage rite, she places herself in a position of jeopardy. Fortunately, this danger is not as great as it once was, but it is always there, nevertheless. A woman's nature is so composed that, once she begins to accept this responsibility, she has the opportunity to receive increasing pleasure from the act that place her in this jeopardy. God and the Law would be unfair otherwise, and this is not possible. Admittedly, for various reasons, many women do not take advantage of this opportunity, but that does not lessen the value of this boon from God. As more women develop their SSI and adhere to the One Flesh concept, this inhibition should be overcome.

When a woman takes upon herself the obligations and duties of a wife, the stresses on her body are greatly increased. To compensate for these new needs, God placed within the male semen various nutritious substances and hormones that she may use to fortify her body's immune system. Admittedly, science has told us little of this effect, but scientists are now becoming aware of these needs and of the effect of semen on them. Most women require this "fix" once or twice a week, and it is a poor or unwise husband who does not see that it is supplied. As many men immerse themselves in their MCD to provide for their family, this need or desire could be forgotten were it not for the feminine SSI acting as a frequent reminder.

This is perhaps one of the most ingenious uses of these incentives, yet it is so little understood by the world of science. The single, nonsexually active woman has no need for the male hormones, as she is not confronted with the stresses of childbearing and childrearing. She, therefore, can function well with the natural substance allotted to her. Once she is willing to take upon herself the rigors of a home and family, God so arranged matters that her increased needs are met by the emissions from her husband. God never neglects His children, unless we willingly disobey the Laws given us. For this reason, the mother who is divorced or deserted is so to be pitied. She has the care of a family, but lacks the support of the male hormones which are her natural due. Can one really blame such a woman for looking for new male companionship to supply that to which she had become accustomed? This is certainly one more reason for a woman to choose a husband wisely in the first place.

Another compelling reason for the female SSI is, as alluded to above, to help compensate for the common flagging interest of men in the sexual act as the years pass. The nature of the MCD is such that as a husband becomes more engaged in his own creative life, the need for sexual release frequently lessens and unless that of his wife develops, months could elapse without the marriage rite being observed.

One last important reason for the female SSI should not be ignored. With its development, men and women have an incentive they may share. This can and should be the beginning of a true One Flesh union. With such a start, they are in a position to fulfill the promise of this concept as they are able to proceed to develop his SSI - the true marriage equalizer.

MALE SECONDARY SEXUAL INCENTIVE. Of all the incentives, this is probably the rarest and, as such, the most desirable. The natural male animal with his PSI and his MCD is still but a brute at heart, no matter how he dresses and acts outwardly. There is no humanity in his PSI, even though it is essential for the continuance of human life. The MCD is the motive power of all worldly development, but it is cold and calculative by nature and, therefore, not a force to bring a man to God. If anything, at this time it would seem that the MCD tends to draw most men away from their Creator and into the entanglement of their own minds. Something more is needed to civilize this animal called man, so that he is a fit companion for his mate and God. This need, we feel, is supplied by the male Secondary Sexual Incentive (SSI). As with the female SSI, this incentive in the man is the counterpart of the PSI in the woman. That is to say, the SSI of the husband is the same ability to develop love in the heart that is the badge of the true woman of God. As a man can develop this incentive, he becomes not only more the ideal partner in the One Flesh marriage, but a benefactor to all humanity as well.

Ninety-five percent of all the evil in the world today stems directly or indirectly from the abusive use of the male PSI and MCD without sufficient male SSI to properly direct these two potent forces. Can you really think of any human-caused evil that cannot be explained by the misuse of these two incentives, or any that would not be alleviated by the correct application of the ability to apply unselfish love by those involved?

But, before we can change the world, we must change ourselves. As a man develops his SSI, he gains more harmony with his wife, for he is now developing an incentive that she can fully understand and appreciate. Thus, the development of the SSIs by both parties to the One Flesh marriage makes the "marriage battery" really work and creates a union that is the envy of all who are aware of it. Such a pair radiate good and purity, so that all who come near cannot help but be affected. Those who desire the same can draw help and sustenance from this pair, but those who are not willing to make the sacrifices necessary for such an accomplishment will attempt to belittle them. They will have little success, however, because the love this couple exudes will defend them more eloquently than any words ever could.

Incentives for the One Flesh Concept
MALE INCENTIVES	FEMALE INCENTIVES
PRIMARY SEXUAL INCENTIVE (PSI)	PRIMARY SEXUAL INCENTIVE (PSI)
The desire for physical release of the sexual fluid buildup	The desire for love and affection
MASCULINE CREATIVE DESIRE (MCD)	FEMALE CREATIVE DESIRE (FCD)
The desire to create all things except human progeny	The desire to create human life and to nurture it once it is created
SECONDARY SEXUAL INCENTIVE (SSI)	SECONDARY SEXUAL INCENTIVE (SSI)
The development of a love and effectional nature like a woman	The development of a sexual nature like that of a man, due to new needs

THE NEED FOR UNDERSTANDING

QUESTION: That's quite a concept. What scientific evidence do you have that these incentives really exist?

ANSWER: One cannot open the brain or the heart to see these incentives; therefore, the proof is always left to the individual to discover. This is equally true of all great advances in the humanities. Become a knowledgeable observer of mankind and see if most human actions cannot be explained in light of these incentives. We have been doing this for almost thirty years, and each day's observations help to reinforce our original investigations.

QUESTION: For the sake of argument, let us say you are right about these incentives. Of what value is this information? It seems a lot of academic gobbledegook to me. What people need now is real help with their problems, not a vague theory.

ANSWER: You are certainly correct when you say that the people of the world need help, but All such help must begin in such apparent "gobbledegook." There is no greater waste of time and effort than to give help to someone who remains ignorant of the cause of his problems. This system has been tried in our country for many years, and, as the Bible warns, our last state is worse than our first. Men and women are now in a state of near constant war because they do not comprehend the nature of their own innate incentives. Invariably, they attempt to create relationships that are doomed from the beginning because they are based on expectations diametrically opposite to these innate incentives. They are like a football player racing toward the wrong goal. He does not require our sympathy! He does not need our encouragement! He does not require a task force or a foundation to help him! Nor is he in need of greater sensitivity to his plight! All he needs is someone to tell him the truth, turn him around, and aim him at the right end of the field. Once this is done he will do the rest without further assistance.

So it is with husbands and wives. All that has to be done is to show them that they are running in the wrong direction and point out the correct end of the field. That is what we do with the One Flesh concept. If these principles are understood and put to work in daily life, interpersonal confusion will become a thing of the past. That does not mean that all couples will have reached the goal of the One Flesh marriage, but it will mean, at least, that they are moving in the right direction.

QUESTION: Can't I have a good marriage unless I understand and except this concept?

ANSWER: Of course, you can, but the average couple would find their existence much more to their liking if they applied the One Flesh concept to their lives. Admittedly, some persons seem to understand these incentives intuitively. These individuals have the ability to know the right thing and to do it. They are not common, however, and their rarity helps to point up the general need for the wide dispersion of this concept.

I am always suspicious when one partner describes the marriage as "good." What a husband calls "good" may mean HE finds it good because it fulfills most of his needs. Should we speak to his wife, we may find a much different view of the marriage. It is not unusual for a man to truly believe he has a good marriage, only to receive first divorce papers a few days later. Such is the nature of the emotional chasm between male and female today. Nothing can brook that chasm except the understanding obtained from the One Flesh concept.

THE ONE FLESH CONCEPT IN THE NEW RENAISSANCE

The New Renaissance cannot really come into being unless the One Flesh marriage becomes the norm and not, as now, be the rare exception. A Renaissance is a renewal of life. That is what must be done with the relationships between men and women in our society. For centuries men and women have pretended to cooperate in an understanding fashion, but the grater part of this has been sham. Only rarely have they really trusted one another. They usually only tolerated each other because it was to their advantage to do so. Society so arranged institutions that a life outside of marriage was frowned upon. Those who followed this rebel course were ostracized, even if they were secretly envied.

In the last few decades this practice changed (?), and a Sexual Revolution took place. All the old taboos are now off, and we can openly do what we wanted to do all along. Have we reached nirvana? Not according to the multitudes of complaints voiced regularly. The previous dictates of society offered some stability to male-female relationships. But that is now gone, and we are wallowing in a sea of desires without sextant or compass. One has but to observe the themes in many recent Hollywood movies to see this confusion exemplified. In these screenplays everyone wants all the pleasures of the sexual union, but no one wants to make a real commitment to another. Morality for its own sake is a thing of the past. In the New Renaissance the monogamous One Flesh union will be the salvation of marriage and human sexuality, not because society says that it is right, but because it alone has the power to bring to men and women the ultimate human contentment, pleasure, and accomplishment.

SUMMARY OF THE ONE FLESH CONCEPT

When it is first confronted, the idea of the One Flesh marriage and the innate incentives that are important to its comprehension are difficult to grasp. Most of this difficulty stems from the fact that mankind finds it hard to contemplate such simple but basic factors of being. Man is, as they say, too close to the situation. It is, today, the very rare individual who gives much thought to the question of "why" we are here, and yet it is in truly seeking the answer to this query that we are able to find not only our reason for being, but understanding on all planes of human activity.

God and Nature so constructed us that we could not even by our most irrational thoughts and actions fail to obey their most basic Laws. Their first desire was for man to multiply and populate the Earth with the bodies of men and women who had within them a spark of Divinity from the Godhead Himself. To assure accomplishment of this need they placed within these human creatures (also into most of their other animal forms) certain powerful incentives which we call Primary Sexual Incentives. The main purpose of these incentives is to assure the continuance of the species by establishing human drives so strong that few can resist the desire to cohabit and then, following the birth of the young, for the woman to nurture and raise the offspring until they are able to fend for themselves. For many species, this is all that is required. We can observe this simple basic function in much of the animal kingdom.

All that is needed from the male is the intensely strong desire to mate with the female. He must be willing to brook any danger and difficulty for this purpose. In nature, the weak fail, but by this means the species is made strong, since only the physically superior are allowed to bring the new generation into the world.

From the female, Nature requires an entirely different service. It is not necessary for the female to have the same PSI as the male. In fact, it would bring havoc to God's creation. From her all that is obligatory concerning the sex act is her acquiescence. Once the new being is conceived, however, the female Primary Sexual Incentives come into full play: the desire to bear the "fruit of her womb" and the mothering instinct to protect this "part of her" until it is able to be on its own. Interestingly, all animals know when it is time to set their child free. But this is a difficult lesson for many human mothers to learn.

By these two incentives many of God's creatures are able to prosper and populate the Earth. For many, however, another incentive has been added to further this project. This incentive is an important part of the human species. In many animal families it was necessary for the food and other sustenance to be provided by the male at least for a time during the care of the young. Because this could not be left to chance, another basic incentive was provided for the male, the Masculine Creative Desire. Originally, this incentive was created to assure that the husband could always provide for his family, but in the human male it gradually metamorphosed into an individual male creative force that is almost completely incomprehensible to most women in the same way that the desire to bare and nurture a child is incomprehensible to a man. MCD is a prime example of the ability of the human being to modify a given incentive to fit the personal requirements of this more advanced form of life.

The secondary Sexual Incentives seem to be exclusively human, but we must question whether they are truly new incentives, different from those previously discussed, or only an evolved human metamorphosis from these ancient primary drives. We are not now prepared to state from where these incentives come, but we have no such doubt concerning their existence. Without them, not only would the One Flesh marriage be impossible, but all human advancement would be stifled and we would still live in the caves of our ancestors.

The SSI of the woman is the factor that allows her not only to have a desire in common with her mate but also gives her reason to remain constantly desirable to him so that she will be able to obtain from him a constant supply of those benefits present in his semen that are so essential to her ultimate will being.* Along with the male sexual nature of the SSI, she also begins to absorb the other qualities of the male. If these are properly accepted and understood, they should not replace her SSI, only augment them. In this way she is able to work toward that balance of human qualities so desired by our Creator for all His children. There is more than myth to the concept of the human being once having been one creature that was torn asunder and is obligated to bring the self together again. As mentioned before, we are complete in the One Flesh marriage, but this is not all. We are required to become "whole" within ourselves. To do this we must not only mate with our lost half but must absorb the best part of this half into ourselves until we both in fact do become ONE FLESH.
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* Women are so constructed that, if they remain virgins, these same needs and desires do not manifest. This is Nature's way of actually producing two creature in one when she made woman. This was recognized by priests of old when they reserved certain functions for female virgins. This separation is not changed with age as long as the woman remains a virgin.

Once a woman's SSI is awakened, however, she has changed, and the virgin innocence can never be found again, at least in this life. Her only chance for contentment is to work to produce a One Flesh marriage that will allow her to create a true balance between her PSI and SSI. ----------------------------------------------------------------------

What we have said about the female SSI is even more important for the male SSI. Although the integrity of the marriage and the home depend much upon the wife's developing her SSI, the future of all humanity is in the hands of the male SSI, Within this incentive lie all the good things that exist, because in it is the nature of everything that is spawned in LOVE. Man is not by nature a loving being. Nature does not require it. But if man is to become a God, as promised in Genesis, he must cultivate this beatitude. Where better to do so than in the arms of that embodiment of love God placed in the world - woman?

From all that is part of a One Flesh marriage man can absorb the love nature of his wife, presuming two things. First, he must understand the desirability of such an effort and, second, he must recognize that his wife has a strong love nature to use as an example. The wise man realizes that all ultimate success in life, here and hereafter, depends on his inherent love nature. This may not at first be fully understood, but a few moments' reflection will help clarify the point. Look back in history and tell me if you can name a man who is still highly regarded today who did not have a strong love nature? A fine cold calculating mind is respected at the time and is frequently helpful to mankind's advancement in various fields, but is usually soon forgotten. On the other hand, if this person had developed his love nature, the vibrations created by this accomplishment would continually reverberate throughout the Universe forever and keep his memory ever alive and fresh. For this reason the memory of the Nazarene, Washington, Lincoln, and yes, President Reagan, will live on, not only because of their accomplishments, but also because of their strong love nature and their disdain to judge their fellowman.

This nature of LOVE to exist eternally once it is created is one of the reasons that good will triumph in the world, because all LOVE discharged into the ether last forever, while EVIL is eventually destroyed by its own weight.

In its final form, the One Flesh marriage is somewhat of a paradox in that the closer the "twain" become the more alike they become and the less they have need of the other for their own completeness. Carrying this line of thought to its completion, we might ask if we reach a point where the two ARE the same and are really only one person? This is a mystery that each of us must solve for ourselves. But, as the Bible says, "With God all things are possible."
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